Use Confidence and Charm to Pick Women up the Natural Way
Guys, if you have been struggling with picking up women and your
efforts have not succeeded in snaring a woman of your taste and style,
it’s time to focus on the natural aspects of picking up women. When all
the macho hoopla is put to the side, confidence, attractiveness and
good communication skills will help any man to succeed in meeting the
woman of his dreams. Contrary to popular belief, women do not always
look for the best-looking man or for the most successful man. Women
want a man who pays attention to them and who communicates well. Above
all else, women of all types and ages desire a guy who will listen to
them.
Practice Your Communication Skills
Communication is a two-way street. The failure of many relationships
can be blamed on poor communication. If you have had problems meeting a
woman and holding her attention long enough to ask her on a date,
consider how you are communicating with women. Are you doing all of the
talking or none of the talking? What are you talking about? While it
is best to keep conversations with women you have just met casual, it is
also important to let her see a glimpse of your personal interests and
your own quirky traits that make you who you are.
Don’t be afraid to tell her a quick, clean joke. Be generous with your
compliments and let her know her hair is beautiful or her eyes light up
in an interesting way. If she is holding a book or wearing a sports
team ball cap, use these small things to ask about her personal
interests. Does she root for that team? Is that book written by her
favorite author? Many men overlook the easiest opportunities to
establish a connection with a woman who has caught their eye. Taking
time and focusing on the details of a woman will give you insight that
can provide the foundation for a great conversation. Great
conversations can lead to you asking her out for lunch or for coffee.
If you are naturally bashful, you are not alone. Many men glide past
women they are attracted to because they are unsure how to begin a
conversation. Overcoming this issue may take considerable effort on
your part; but if you never make the effort, you may never enjoy the
rewards. Practice talking to your mirror. Try out different statements
or opening lines to start a conversation. While these suggestions may
seem contrite or silly, these are common communication techniques that
many executives use to establish rapport with clients. There is no
reason you can’t use these tips to learn how to speak to and establish a
rapport with a beautiful and interesting woman.
How You Look Does Matter
You can be casually fashionable in a way that will attract women to you.
You don’t have to have a manicure once a week in order to look
sophisticated and appealing to a woman. You do need to have good
grooming skills and excellent hygiene habits. Consider carrying a
packet of mints with you wherever you go. You never know when you will
meet an attractive gal and you certainly don’t want your breath to scare
her away.
Be prepared and study up on recent guys’ fashions. Many men balk at the
idea of studying up on fashion. If you are a working man and love to
hang out in your jeans and t-shirt, this is fine; just make sure you are
not sporting your favorite torn shirt from the 80’s. Invest in a pair
of designer men’s boots and don’t balk at the thought of wearing a
casually-sophisticated scarf or knit hat. Take advantage of your best
physical features by enhancing them. If you want to snag a beautiful
and stylish woman, chances are, you are going to have to be somewhat
stylish yourself.
You can dress casually and still look current and relevant. If your
hair has been neglected for years, invest in a trendy haircut and make
sure you aren't growing out that beard simply because you are too lazy
to shave. While women do not want a man who is completely into himself,
they do want a man who cares about how he looks.
If you hit the pub a few times a week, be sure to counteract this by
hitting the gym a few times a week. The payoff will be worth the effort
when you find yourself sitting across a dinner table at a nice
restaurant with the woman you have been dying to take out. Be natural,
be positive, engage her in conversation and don’t be afraid to let her
see you smile.
Bill Preston owns http://www.puaforums.com
Wednesday, December 16, 2009
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